Consider the Source

Is the complainer in your life a messenger, the proverbial canary in the coal mine, or are they the problem?

Before reacting to the alarmist, consider their role in the situation.

Overcompensation

 Overcompensation is the tell of insecurity

It's not hard to see but pay attention because it's the roadmap of negotiation and the crystal ball of prediction. 

People can be counted on to act in accordance with their true nature. Because the way they do one thing is the way they do everything. Turn on the stress and you'll see.

Avoidance of pain is the guiding light.

• Believes themselves to be unattractive.
• Believes themselves to lack intrinsic value.
• Believes themselves to be inadequate.
• Fear of rejection.
• Fear of abandonment.

Over-the-top behaviors are fueled by under-the-surface beliefs.

When you wonder what someone will do next, look for the overcompensations and reverse engineer. It's not magic, it's just observation.

Rule #1

 Know with whom you fucketh.

There is one rule that I always follow: Know with whom you fucketh.

My superpower is knowing other people better than they know me.

I don't do it on purpose, it just happens and whether it's a blessing or a lonely curse is up for debate.

It is definitely an advantage though. I'm rarely surprised.

If you get close to me, I will know you better than you think.

But anyone can do it.

Before moving forward, take the time, do the research, see the lay of the land.

Less time self-obsessing. More time looking around.

Ownership

 

Is this my problem?

Before expending time and resources on a solution, ask yourself; "is this my problem?"

Ever been the hardest working person at your company, solving all the problems, only to get fired?

Did all the things and still walked away empty-handed?

Are you solving other people's problems at the expense of your own?

Situations will take as much as you give. Not everything is your problem.

Don't take ownership in things that don't belong to you.

The Frog

 

Parable about a frog

If you put a frog in a pan of boiling water, it will immediately jump back out.

If you put a frog in a pan of cool water and turn the heat on, it will sit there until it cooks.

How hot is your water right now?